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self service is often used as an escape or coping activity for stress, anger, loneliness, tiredness, fear and generally for s*xual satisfaction.
self service also known as self-s*x is the er*tic stimulation of one’s self s*xually. It is done with hands, fingers, a vibrator and lubricants that stimulates one’s private parts for s*xual satisfaction.
self service is addictive and very rampant too. It is an activity few talk about but many partake in. Therefore, we shouldn’t shy away from talking about it.
Although self service is often associated with males, it is performed by both genders.
Most people learn to self service during adolescence, but the number of females who indulge in self s*x cannot be compared to their male counterparts.
self service is often used as an escape or coping activity for stress, anger, loneliness, tiredness, fear and generally for s*xual satisfaction. Most people that indulge in this act can’t go a day without self servicing.
Like any s*xual activity, self service helps release endorphins, a chemical in the body that promotes a sense of happiness and can relieve stress.
A study from Harvard’s Health Professional Followup also showed that self service may help lower the risk of prostate cancer in men, but you and I know honestly that men have not been self servicing all these years because they want to boost their prostate health.
Unfortunately, not all of the possible side effects of self service are necessarily good.
self service most times serves as a chronic way to avoid intimacy with others, which can cause anxiety in the long run. Chronic self service can actually change your personality.
S*xual intercourse between two people has many benefits for men and women. It reduces blood pressure, promotes heart health and prostate health. It also promotes companionship and creates stronger bond. But self service doesn’t have all these health benefits.
You may argue that it is low-risk and you are not hurting anybody, and it’s the safest form of s*x because no one has ever caught an STD from himself or made herself pregnant. But is it really low-risk activity?
The risks involved in self service very much out weighs the gains.
Signs of chronic self service include:
1. Extreme absent-mindedness.
3. Deep desire for isolation, yet has feelings of loneliness.
4. Highly irritable or easily irritated.
5. Day dreaming.
6. Make excuses when it is s*x time with partner.
7. Forgetfulness, and poor retention leading to difficulty in school.
9. Moodiness and depression.
10. Suicidal thoughts in some cases.
11. Generally pessimistic.
12. Extra sensitive to guilt, shame, and regret, low self esteem and poor confidence level.
Frequent self service can cause serious skin irritation. Forcefully bending an erect man-hood can rupture the chambers filled with blood, which can lead to a condition called penile fracture or swelling. Most men will need surgery to repair it.
self service and s*xual fantasy creates a major barrier to having healthy and fulfilling relationships, because you become easily bored sexually with your partner.
When it comes to having s*x with the man or woman you love, you end up choosing P0*n, fantasy and self service over them. You just no longer desire s*x with a real person.
Another effect of self servicing is that when you have prolonged intercourse with your partner, you can’t experience climax. Most men that self service often pull out of the woman, then use their hand with the help of lubricant on their private part and in less than 2 minutes, they are able to climax.
Females most commonly self service by stroking or rubbing the vulva, especially the cli**ris, with hands and fingers until climax is reached.
With repetition, your brain can learn to prefer s*xual fantasy and self service to real s*xual intimacy with your spouse. As a matter of fact, your brain’s arousal circuit can become so dominantly wired for self-s*x that physical intimacy with your spouse or your partner becomes increasingly difficult and eventually impossible. Your partner is left hurting, rejected, replaced, betrayed, and deceived.
Most men and women who are s*xually potent but self service suffer a form of s*xual impotence towards their partner. This s*xual impotence is a situation where they have increasing difficulty getting aroused by their partner.
They believe they give themselves better pleasure than any other person does. Giving up on s*x with your partner because of self-s*x means it is time to consider seeing a s*x therapist.
You can overcome self service because the human brain is neuro plastic, meaning it is moldable and changeable. Behaviours can be learned and unlearned and replaced with healthier ones. Individuals can get to a place they are able to enjoy healthy s*xual intimacy in a long-term committed relationship.
Make an earnest resolution to overcome self service. Remind yourself always that you will not die if you don’t self-s*x. Learn to not isolate yourself from people and when in the midst of people be very present minded.
If you are addicted to self service, avoid p****graphy or whatever thoughts that arouses such desires that will ultimately lead to self s*x.
When it comes to having s*x with your partner, be mentally and psychologically present, encourage him or her on how to help you enjoy s*x better with them.
Be prayerful if you believe in the efficacy of prayers. Talk to a psychotherapist for professional guidance. Always remember you are in charge of your mind. You can stop masturbvating if you desire.